I am in a relationship with my high school sweetheart. We have been dating since March and I fell for him so hard and so fast. He is usually really shy and quiet but he warmed up to me really easy and ever since we have honestly become best friends. Things were picture perfect and all my friends were so jealous.

Until just recently.

He barely talked to me on June 10th. I asked him if everything was okay and he said it was. He replied with "I've just been really tired, I was napping." I brushed it off and let him go back to sleep. Except the next day was the same scenario. He barely talked to me, I asked if everything was fine, he said he was napping. I called bull shit. I said that there had to be something up. He said that there was something that he needed to tell me and that he didnt want to lose me over it. I told him he needed to make the hour drive to my apartment. Before he got to my apartment I made him tell me what he did and he informed me that he had sex with his ex girlfriend the day before our hometown's graduation. When he arrived I asked more detailed questions like when exactly it happened, how it happened, etc. Our hometown's graduation was the weekend of May 18th. So obviously my first question after that was how could things have been ok between us since then. He then told me he has absolutely no memory of this happening. He said he was at my cousins house partying, he got a ride back to his house, was in his house and she showed up. I then learned that on June 10th she came over to his house and showed him text messages that she had saved from that weekend as her 'proof' that they had sex.

When I found out I honestly never thought once of breaking up with him. But I knew something needed to happen so he didn't think he was just getting away with it. So I made him call 7 of my closest friends and tell them that he cheated on me and had sex with his ex. He cried a lot and seemed genuinely upset. Ever since things have been okay with us, obviously not as good as they were, but things are good.

I want to hear about other people who have forgiven their significant others for cheating on them, what they did, what their SO's did to regain their trust, the works. I just want to know that I am doing the right thing. I am so in love and I can't fathom not being his. I have honestly never felt this strongly for anyone before.

Give me some feedback, thank you.

There are always reasons we are afraid of certain things, we protect ourselves in this way. If we fall off a swingset, we are scared to get back on. If we get bit by a dog, we become afraid of them. Is it the same way with love? If you give yourself to someone 100%, are you too afraid to give yourself to someone else? Has it ruined relationships after that?

My grandma divorced her first husband and then remarried and my mom has been through a divorce and remarried. I am scared of the trend. Growing up, all I saw my parents do was fight...and when I get into a semi-serious relationship and get into an argument I get scared and usually end things soon after the fight.

I know that I want to fall madly in love with the right guy. I also know that in order for that to happen I need to fix this being scared thing. So here are my questions:

Have you ever given yourself whole heartedly to someone and had the rug pulled from under you?

If yes, were you afraid to fall again?

If yes, how did you fix that?

Are your parents divorced?

If yes, are you afraid it's a trend? Possibly a trend you can't stop?

First off, thank you to those who commented on my previous post. Your advice helped me greatly.

Secondly, that boy is out. Some things went down yesterday and all I am going to say is the last text message I sent him said "Don't talk to me ever again." That last text message was followed with me deleting his number out of my phone book.

I should be #1 to a guy that is #1 to me. End of story. I will not tolerate being chosen second anymore.

Thank you everyone for making me realize that.

I am off to bigger better relationships.